So many women are still very afraid of their OWN hair. It would almost be like being afraid of your nose or being afraid of your eyes. Odd, huh?
Well, it's true. My sisters are asking me how I was able to walk away from the long, beautiful, flowing relaxed hair. Some are even afraid of being out in public with their kinky, curly hair. I can't lie and say I've never fel that way before. I have. I quickly shook off that feeling. One of my natural sisters said it best when hoping to convince an apprehensive natural to come to the other side, "It's like jumping in a pool," she said. Just do it and the water eventually feels warm. For me, I had those initial moments, but I didn't let it rattle me, and people got used to my new hair real quick. Did you hear that? I said new, but my hair really wasn't "new," it was hidden.
Make up your mind if you want to do it. You simply can't straddle the fence on this one or you will remain in a conflicted state. No one wins when you straddle. Just do it. Was it easy for me? Sort of, because I had a made up mind and I didn't care what anyone had to say. I was going to do it no matter what. I guess after I quietly big chopped at 2 am without warning any of my friends, including my husband there was no turning back!
I admit, there were times when I looked in the mirror and didn't like the big chop. As much as I loved posing for the camera, there were times when I shyed away. God knows I had my moments, but not once did I regret my decision. Then, my hair started growing and it wouldn't stop! Eventually, I realized it wasn't a struggle at all.
Yes, some will decide to go natural and still wear their hair straight. That wasn't my journey. I knew I wanted to go kinky! After having a relaxer for over twenty years, the very thought of straightening my hair sends me into a confused state of mind. Why would I want to chance ruining a years worth of growth? What if my hair doesn't revert back? I never thought I'd not want to straighten my hair or that even considering it would be an issue for me. The thought of straightening my hair makes me feel like a CHEAT! I guess I feel "married" to my natural hair and I'm committed to it. We are finally connected. I'm one of those hard core naturals. I have no desire to wear wigs, weaves, nothing! It's just me and my kinks and without warning or notice we have become one. EMBRACE it and you will become one with your hair.
Written by Author, Blogger, Public Speaker, De'Vonna Bentley-Pittman
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